Prosperous Relationships – How to Find Long-Term Security in Partnership

Some might argue that anyone NOT in a  long-term committed relationship isn’t in any position to give relationship advice.  Screw them! (Just kidding!) 

The fact is that we are ALL in a long-term committed relationship with OURSELVES, and this needs to be the starting point or foundation for a relationship with anyone else.

I chat with folks online all over the world, and the predominant theme that I hear from both men and women is that it is HARD to find someone!  When I then ask what they are looking for in a mate, they usually say something like “someone that will love me with all of his/her heart, forever”.  Phew!  That’s a pretty tall order, and if that is what you seek, you are setting yourself up for failure!

Why? Because NO ONE can promise that – it’s impossible, because no one knows what the future will bring.  Your partner can find someone else, get sick or die, or just change their mind!  A partner CANNOT and NEVER WILL provide you with any type of security.  Most marriage vows promise that- and most marriage vows create an inherent conflict that we all know of – intuitively.  Anyone who thinks that an “I’ll love you forever promise” is possible, doesn’t understand human nature or their relationship with their higher self.  And that misunderstanding is why you don’t have the ideal partner in your life.

The best that we can ask of anyone is that they are committed to being happy themselves, no matter what outer circumstances bring, and that they don’t look to their partner (you) to make them happy.  If you can find a person that is INTERNALLY happy, even without a mate, and that person refuses to let anyone else (including you as their partner) move them from that place of knowing (their own true joy), then they are a GREAT person to be in a long-term relationship with.

The less a person is dependent on their partner to be happy, the easier it is (and the more fun it is) to be with that person.  And when you get that, you relax, and relaxing in a relationship, the chances are great that it will last long-term.  And as Abraham (of Abraham-Hicks fame) says – the best you can ask for in the form of an “agreement” with your partner is something along the lines of “I like you pretty good, let’s see how it goes”.  If you can be OK with that type of agreement, then smile, you are on the LEADING EDGE!

And women, here’s a note about men that you should take to heart: anything that you do to try to lock in “security” from your mate, will push your man away FAST.  Because (as a general rule) men seek freedom above all else!  And there is a direct conflict when a man (who is not aware of the guidance from his higher self), and woman (who is not aligned with the guidance of her higher self), come together.

She wants security, he wants freedom, and the harder one reaches for their goal, the more insecure (or trapped) the other person feels. A man reaches for freedom, and she then feels insecure.  She reaches for security, and he feels trapped.  That’s the way it is!  But once women stop looking to men to feel secure, and once men stop looking to women to support their need for freedom, and both realize that it is their relationship with their HIGHER SELVES that provides what they are seeking ,then they get aligned with their highest good, and an ideal partner comes into their experience (if that is what is wanted).

Just because I understand this topic intellectually, doesn’t mean that I have mastered this topic, but I am getting better and better at it!  Though I am single, I am happy being single and I am in no rush to find Ms. Perfect – I am content to work on the relationship between me and ME, and trust that Law of Attraction will bring the right people into my experience, without any effort or striving on my part.

I hope that is helpful, and I would LOVE to get your feedback on this topic!  Please post a comment or a question and I will respond to it!  And please share this via your favorite social network!  Click the “chicklet” buttons below to share it.

With Aloha,

- Ryan

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Manifesting Using our Natural Sexual Energy – Interview with Kamala Devi (Episode 1)

I had a GREAT interview recently with Kamala Devi. I visited with her at “The Emerald Temple” – her residence in Pacific Beach. We had a fantastic discussion on sexuality and the SHAMAN method of “sex magic”. As a manifesting tool or method, it sounds a bit off the usual path, but I can’t think of a more appealing way to attempt to manifest and co-create something in our lives than to use our natural sexual energy. Kamala is very knowledgeable, and I am pleased to make her interview available to you now as Prosperity Radio’s very first full length podcast. You can learn more about this incredible spiritual healer and coach, and her new book Sacred Sexual Healing at www.partnerplayshop.com.

Divorce Sucks, or Does It?

I recently had the opportunity to meet best-selling author Debbie Ford, who was featured in the new movie The Moses Code. She was speaking in San Diego at a local premier of the movie, to which I had taken a date -a lovely and talented Iranian woman who was an OBGYN. Well , I am no longer dating the Iranian Doctor, but now I realize why the date was “meant to be”.

Debbie has a book, called “Spiritual Divorce: Divorce as a Catalyst for an Extraordinary Life”. Below is a summary. I haven’t read the book, yet, but i am going to very soon, because I like what she has done – written about something that seems to be a major trauma for most of us, and how to turn it around and use it as a springboard to a much better life. That is exactly my intent with my forthcoming book, on how to use financial trauma in the same way, as a springboard to bigger and better things. It’s especially relevant because frequently divorce is one of the major reasons for people experiencing financial trauma. So, good job Debbie on the book, and I look forward to having you on the show soon!

Spiritual Divorce: Divorce as a Catalyst for an Extraordinary Life

Could the end of your marriage be the first step toward reclaiming your personal power and joyfully living the life of your dreams? If the answer is yes, this book is for you. Divorce rocks the very foundation of our beings, leaving us feeling lonely, flawed, enraged, undesirable, hopeless, and empty. In Spiritual Divorce, New York Times bestselling author Debbie Ford reveals how this devastation can be transformed into a profoundly enlightening experience. This empowering guide shows how the collapse of a marriage is, at root, a spiritual wake-up call, an opportunity to liberate ourselves and reclaim our lives. The end of a relationship—no matter who ends it—is a damaging moment. Ford offers a clear program for turning ruin into renewal.

Deepak Chopra on Relationships (and Obama)

“Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.” – Deepak

Deepak Chopra is a very well known author, speaker, and medical doctor who I hope one day soon to interview for a Prosperity Radio podcast. This man defines “holistic” health – and because he is an M.D., he has great authority and credibility among people on how to experience health through a balanced mind/body connection. This guy is the embodiment of prosperity in every way, as far as I can tell.

Deepak recently wrote a book called Why is God Laughing? The Path to Joy and Optimism. That a medical doctor can, through teaching holistic health and spiritual well-being, become essentually a religious guru is fascinating, but also points out how most people need someone in a position of authority to teach them, because apparently all of the mystics out there with a similar message just don’t have enough credibility. I love Deepak, and think he is doing a very good thing for humanity, and that is why i want him on the show.

Interestingly, he also co-authored an open letter to the main Presidential candidates, and Barack Obama wrote a very good reply to the 6 tough questions that were posed. Read the letter, and Barack’s response here: http://www.chopra.com/openletter

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