When good situations go bad, how should we handle it?

What do you do when things seem to manifest perfectly, but then that manifestation or creation ‘goes south’ all of a sudden.  What happened?  Did you mis-create? How should we handle it so that things turn out for the best?

Here’s a good example from my life, which is why it’s on my mind, this is happening right now for me: I found a great little apartment to help me transition from Hawaii to San Diego. In fact, the apartment found me.

I was in the airport waiting to fly out of Honolulu, on my way to San Diego, to where I was re-relocating after living for 18 months on the Big Island.  An older gentleman asked if he could share the table where I sat eating. We struck up a conversation and it turned out he had a vacant apartment in Pacific Beach, just feet from the ocean, which is exactly what I wanted!  It wasn’t a 2 bedroom, but it was clean, convenient, in the heart of town, and it had a good vibe. A few days later, I was moved into the apartment. I never even had to do an apartment search since it found me.  Pretty cool huh?   It’s a great little manifestation story that shows how easily things can fall into place for us when we are in alignment, and going with the flow. Love it when that happens…

But it just ‘went south’. Or did it? Four months later I returned from a little trip to Maui, and lo and behold there was a construction project underway in my back yard. Apparently my landlord had applied or building permits 2 years before. The permits were finally approved while I was back in Hawaii for a week, so while I was out of town his contractor started construction of a large addition onto the adjoining building just a few feet outside my back door. I had no notice whatsoever. Now it’s dusty, noisy, with construction workers and equipment everywhere. Interruptions to gas and electric, etc. Oh, and I found out the furnace doesn’t work. (Yes, we sometimes need heaters in Southern California). I feel the urgent need to move, and I gave him my 30 day notice.

So did I mis-manifest? Was my creation flawed? Did I do something wrong to cause this situation?  All good questions, and you can probably remember similar situations in your own life where something seemed so perfect at first, but then turned out to be less than perfect. It happens in relationships all the time, right?

So how do we handle these situations?

Well here’s how I look at it. First, no, I did not ‘mis-manifest’ – the solution in this case, the apartment, was in fact perfect for a short period. It served its purpose of being shelter during a transition period. I am now successfully transitioned from Hawaii back to the mainland, and I have since identified further wants and needs.

In fact, the shortcomings of my current apartment actually helped me get clarity about what would be even better.  Specifically, I value more space, and decided that was an important priority.  I also really value having a hottub / jacuzzi, and decided my next apartment or house will have one of those.  And I want a bit more privacy, and a nicer kitchen.  But details aside, what is important to recognize is that life is all about change.  And what serves as a perfect solution one day can very well be the ‘platform’ that gives rise to new, bigger better desires and preferences, so we in effect outgrow the old solution, and then need to align with the new solution to the new set of desires, or problems.

But if we get hung up on the idea that something good has turned ‘bad’, then we are shutting ourselves off from the energy that creates the ideal solutions to our new ‘problems’. We have to relax, and trust that the Universe knows exactly what it is doing, and is conspiring to create a wonderful life for us, if we can just get out of our own way.  In short, don’t sabotage positive change by dwelling on the fact that things changed.  Roll with it, assume that all will be well, and relax. Look forward to a better future, and have positive expectation that it will come about. And it will come about. Don’t look for errors in thinking, or try to pinpoint mistakes that were made, by any party. Just get clear about what you now want as a result from having had this experience.

I have already found a fantastic next apartment with a massive hottub, very unique landscaping and a huge outdoor party area, with a very nice kitchen, and a second bedroom which I will use as my office.

I REALLY want this next apartment, but if I don’t get it, of course I will be momentarily disappointed. That’s only normal. But I have faith that there is another one, and even better one, waiting right around the corner for me. It’s all about relaxing, trusting, and not over-analyzing the situation. Can you do that?  Sure you can!    it doesn’t matter if its a job, money, a car, or a lover, there is always something better right around the corner, but you have to cooperate by having a positive expectation that it will come to you in the perfect time. A positive expectation and a positive attitude will help accelerate the solution finding you.

I hope this little story helps you if you are wrestling with something similar. Can you relate? Has this happened to you?  Tell me about it by leaving a comment. What did you do about it?  Did it all work out? I want to hear from you!

To Your Prosperity,

-Ryan Harris